Happily After Baby?

Of the countless changes that follow a newborn, I’ve learned our relationships tend to have a boiling frog effect; nothing really noticeable at first, but over time – we’re both wondering what went wrong.

My husband and I were friends before lovers and lovers before newlyweds, and eventually parents. I always thought nagging wives were such a bore and that my husband and I would never be one of those couples. Lesson number one: never say never ;)

I should start by saying that I’m a Certified Integrative Health Coach and I focus on four major areas in my coaching: career, spirituality, physical activity and relationships. We all know relationships are work, but they can prove to be a whole lot of extra work when little people arrive on the scene.

I’ve taken a number of polls asking women about the biggest changes in their relationships after baby and the top 3 responses are:

  • As the Mom, I'm responsible for everything
  • My Spouse/Partner can't read my mind
  • We don't spend quality time together

Does any of that ring true to you?

I first noticed feelings of resentment when I was eight months pregnant and experiencing all sorts of discomforts while my husband slept (and by slept, I mean snored) soundly through the night. And then again when I was struggling with figuring out my newborn at home while he worked all day and came home a little more distant each time… or when he tried to step in and help and I would get frustrated because I felt he was “doing it all wrong”.

There are many factors that played into the person I never thought I’d become, especially after such a joyous time in our lives– but I’m so grateful we recognized something was “off” and were able to do something about it sooner rather than years down the road.

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It really helped me to connect with other new moms who were experiencing so much change, so fast. If you find yourself in a similar situation, I’d like to say that a) you’re not alone and b) awareness is a first huge step.

When we have awareness, we can step into the space of opportunity to create a plan or solution.

If this sounds like something you’d like to further explore - I’d love to for you to join the ohmMother Yoga community in our special workshop Happily After Baby? on November 2nd at 7 PM, single attendees AND couples are welcome! Register here.

In Health and Love,

Daisy De La Cruz, Founder & Certified Integrative Health Coach

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